Perspectives on family and relationships

It often happens when I speak with my family that mostly on the phone that something dawns on me about my relationship with them.

I want to be mindful of relationship baggage and try not to let it define my own experiences and perceptions of the the person. I don't know as yet how to process the information provided by others of a person in forming my own opinion. Positive or negative experieinces from other people with a person and not false - but at the same time there is some inherent bias - I will have to figure out for my self this talent to sieve the facts the truth from opinions provided by the other.
I guess this is where the gift of Wisdom from the Holy Spirit could be used liberally - to be able to simply know not having to guess!

dai ski da - I love you in Japanese